Pawsitive Memories

The grieving process happens gradually. It cannot be forced or hurried and there is no timetable for grieving. For some, it takes weeks or months to come to terms with the loss of a pet while for others it may take years. Whatever grief you are experiencing, it is important to be patient with yourself and naturally allow the process to unfold.

Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel. With the passing of a cherished pet, it is completely normal to have an emotional response that includes feelings of sadness, shock, and loneliness. These feelings should be acknowledged and accepted as a normal step in grieving. It is okay to be angry, to cry or not to cry. It is also ok to laugh, to find moments of joy, and to let go when you’re ready. There is no reason to feel ashamed about any emotions you are feeling during your grieving.

Acknowledging and accepting your grief is a necessary part of the healing process. Ignoring these feelings will only increase the duration and make it harder to accept your loss.

There are several online message boards, pet loss hotlines, and pet loss support groups (click here for more details). Being able to share your grief with someone who has experienced similar emotions can be very therapeutic and reduce the severity of the emotions you are feeling.

For some, a funeral can help you and your family members openly express their feelings and help with the healing process. There is no right or wrong answer. You should do whatever you feel will benefit and help you the most.

Create a special memorial, plant a tree in memory of your pet, or compile a scrapbook that helps to remember all the good memories you have with your pet. Try to look at it as a celebration of life. Remembering the fun and love you shared with your pet can help you to eventually move on.

Navigating the emotional rollercoaster of losing a pet can quickly start to affect you mentally and physically. It is important to look after your mental and physical needs, especially during this emotional time. Try to maintain a normal routine. It’s also very important to make sure you are talking to others about your feelings, eating healthy, getting plenty of sleep, and exercise regularly to help you on your path of healing.

Sometimes we need a little extra. If the grief you are experiencing is interfering with your ability to function, it is important you see your doctor or mental health professional.